What Setting Boundaries has Taught Me as a Therapist

Having boundaries are hard!

Setting boundaries are hard!

Shoot, thinking about boundaries are hard!

Yes, I am a therapist, but no I am not an expert on boundaries. I can help you effectively set them, but also I can be honest that it takes a lot of energy and dedication. 

When you choose to set boundaries, things do not magically fall into place. You don’t tell someone to not do something, then expect them to respect it, and move on. Most times you will constantly have to remind others about the boundaries you are setting. 

You have to get yourself in alignment to ensure that you are not being passive-aggressive, but confident in your needs. You must identify a bigger goal that you have to serve as your why for choosing this boundary in the first place. 

Setting a boundary comes with moving different.

How can you expect someone else to treat you different, if you move the same. 

Basically what I am tell you is what I have learned setting my own boundaries as a therapist is that not only does boundaries need to be set for others around you, but also for yourself. 

You are the only one that can ensure that your boundary is being respected, but you have to hold yourself accountable to change you habits/actions as well to get real results. 

Are you ready for that? 

Everything is not always the blame game, when the thumb is pointing back at you as well. 

I always encourage people to be honest with themselves first.

The truth is when you begin to set your boundary, you are going to get a lot of push back from the people you are setting them with. Why? It will no longer benefit them. If something doesn’t benefit you anymore, you might be upset too!

Once you are challenged, you must be confident within yourself of your ability or ability to try and build your own tolerance needed to hold to that boundary. To do something new.

Once you are truly ready to push yourself to do that, then you can effectively set boundaries. 

Always Live Lovely,

Chetina

Helpful Resources:

To listen to the podcast click here; for video click here.

Learn how to be honest about your feelings here.

For more information about finding a therapist in your area refer to the resource page http://alwayslivelovely.com/resources/ .

Written : February 1, 2022

***DISCLAIMER***

Although I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), the contents on this blog are provided for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the specialized training and judgment of a health care or mental health professional. There is no Therapist-Client relationship created by accessing the information on this blog. Always seek the help of a physician or qualified mental health professional if you have any questions regarding a medical or mental health condition. Always Live Lovely is not held responsible for the use of the information provided. Reliance on any of the information provided by this blog only is solely at your own risk. Please see Health Disclaimer for further information alwayslivelovely.com/health-disclaimer/ .

Freeing Yourself from Mental Health Stigma

What does it truly mean to be free? In order to experience true freedom should it exist on a mental, physical, and spiritual level? Do we ever get to the core of freedom?

Freedom is something I have consistently been after. Freedom is something I feel everyone deserves. When someone has mental health experiences they usually face stigma and others not understanding. As a therapist, I sit with various people who feel like a burden, misunderstood, confused, etc.

In order for me to be the best therapist I can be, I must practice daily to free myself as well. I must not be afraid to be vulnerable about my own journey. You must remember there is power in your words. You can set your thoughts free. You can be free. I chose freedom.

To hear my journey listen to the season 1 finale of my podcast, “Breaking Barriers: A Mental Health Discussion”.

Helpful Resources:

To listen to the podcast click here; for video click here.

Learn how to be honest about your feelings here.

For a technique on how to overcome anxiety read this blog post here.

Do you experience suicidal thoughts…read this blog post here and listen to this poem here.

For more information about finding a therapist in your area refer to the resource page http://alwayslivelovely.com/resources/ .

Written : July 15, 2021

***DISCLAIMER***

Although I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), the contents on this blog are provided for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the specialized training and judgment of a health care or mental health professional. There is no Therapist-Client relationship created by accessing the information on this blog. Always seek the help of a physician or qualified mental health professional if you have any questions regarding a medical or mental health condition. Always Live Lovely is not held responsible for the use of the information provided. Reliance on any of the information provided by this blog only is solely at your own risk. Please see Health Disclaimer for further information alwayslivelovely.com/health-disclaimer/ .

Updates for the New Year

Hello Lovely People,

I know it has been a while since I created a blog post for you all. My apologies, but it is with good reason. While I have not been making new blog post, I have been putting all that energy towards growing and making Always Live Lovely an official business…YAY!!! I have really taken the time to be consistent on my social media platforms, beginning to build community, put myself out there more, started a newsletter, did a few free workshops, and I even launched a new series. I have been licensed for a little over a year now! I would truly appreciate if you all signed up for my newsletter and followed the business social media handles. I will be sure to leave all the links below.

I wanted you all to be the first to know that I finally have services coming in 2021, since you all have been rocking with Always Live Lovely since day 1. The services will include consultations for mental health trainees/associates, schools, and those of you needing help with mental health education and finding a therapist. That is just a snippet of what will be offered. I also have amazing merchandise in store as well. I am very excited to expand this brand. Oh wait and I forgot to mention above that the series I created is called, Breaking Barriers: A Mental Health Discussion. I release a new episode each month and it is also available in podcast format on various platforms. Super exciting!

I want to thank you all so much for sticking around and watching this business blossom. I hope you continue to buckle up for the ride and become more engaged with the community. Happy New Year and blessings in to 2021.

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Podcast:

Anchor- https://anchor.fm/alwayslivelovely/episodes/Welcome-to-Breaking-Barriers-A-Mental-Health-Discussion-eo0v21

Spotify- https://open.spotify.com/show/5DuS1ecLL7R6UYYGbzl54g

Google podcast- https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy80NDBhZWM4OC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw==

Always Live Lovely,

                          Chetina

Written : January 1, 2021

***DISCLAIMER***

Although I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), the contents on this blog are provided for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the specialized training and judgment of a health care or mental health professional. There is no Therapist-Client relationship created by accessing the information on this blog. Always seek the help of a physician or qualified mental health professional if you have any questions regarding a medical or mental health condition. Always Live Lovely is not held responsible for the use of the information provided. Reliance on any of the information provided by this blog only is solely at your own risk. Please see Health Disclaimer for further information alwayslivelovely.com/health-disclaimer/ .